Almost everyone believes that infidelity is wrong. On a poll conducted by Gallup last 2013, over 91% of respondents think that having an extra-marital affair is unacceptable. Most religions condemn adultery, while many secular countries classify this as a punishable crime. Ironically, studies also showed that over 75% of men and 68% of women cheated in one way or another in their relationships. Given that many still fall prey to this sin, maybe we need some Bible study about infidelity in marriage.
Why Do People Commit Infidelity?
The Bible sees sexual intercourse beyond a biological function. It poses a kind of intimacy not present with other types of human interaction. There is a sharing of emotion, vulnerability and trust between a husband and wife during an intercourse. As a gift from marriage, this allows couples to be vulnerable but strong enough to trust one another. We become one with our wives (Genesis 2:24) and this assures us a lifelong godly relationship with them. Hence, God elevated sex from a mere pleasurable activity.
One commits the sin of infidelity once he engages in sexual intercourse outside marriage. There is a plethora of reasons why people engage in infidelity. Major reasons include mistaking affection for lust and feeling a need to be emotionally connected. Ideally, marriage should have provided these wants but some look beyond their wives instead of addressing the problem with them.
You Cheated – Now, What Are the Effects?
This raises the question, is infidelity a testament to affirm one’s masculinity? Perhaps popular media’s desensitization softened views with infidelity as Biblically and morally wrong. Seeing a man in suit surrounded by beautiful women creates a notion that it is actually cool to do that. He will feel well initially assuming the guilt does not consume him. However, the Bible has warned us not to commit this sin because God is more than ready to punish us like what He did to King David.
As narrated in the Second Book of Samuel, King David had an affair with Bathsheba. His temptation got the better of him and the two committed adultery. To conceal his sin, he even summoned her husband back from the battlefield in the hopes the two will have an intercourse. Nonetheless, King David’s plan to hide Batsheba’s pregnancy failed and his Kingdom suffered a decline until he was left with nothing.
Remember that God sees everything you do (Proverbs 5:21-23). It is only a matter of time before you get caught with your illicit affair. Infidelity will not make you manlier, this deed only labels you as the irresponsible father or the cheating husband. Breaching the vow you had with your wife shatters her trust and severed the union you had in marriage. Lastly, all affairs end because these only give a fleeting thrill. Your wife is the only one who can give you lasting happiness.
“Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear;” – Isaiah 59:1
It’s Never Too Late to Redeem Yourself
We should thank Jesus Christ as He died on the cross to atone for our sins. Not only the harsh punishments in the Old Testament were lifted, we were also reminded that we can start over again despite our failings. The adulterer is not beyond God’s grace and he only needs to confess his sin to start rebuilding the relationship again.
Note that it will take a while before you can restore your marriage just like before. Healing takes time even if we want to quickly get rid of the pain. Your aggrieved wife has also her qualms about forgiving you, fearing the same will happen in the future. Perhaps facing the problem together helps a lot to fix things. Rest assured, your marriage will weather everything with God’s grace.
We must never think that we are already safe from the clutches of infidelity just because we regularly go to church or we always read the Bible. A close relationship with God keeps us from all forms of temptation. We are weak when left in our own accord. Nonetheless, we already know what stance we should take given the Bible study about infidelity in marriage.
“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” – 1 Corinthians 7:2