This is going to be a throwaway article if we say you simply need to claim your love for Jesus Christ to your future partner. Anyone can say that and many are using this guise to get a girl. However, actions speak louder than words. Our motive will be apparent later in the relationship. As Christians, we are not just dating for fun. We have marriage as the end in mind, that’s why we are doing this. Hence, we must emulate these characteristic traits of a godly man in a relationship.
You Are Selfless
Love is easy in the early stages of the relationship, but what happens once the initial spark is gone? The Bible dictates that a man should endure the test of time, and persevere the hard times. It has a specific instruction to love wives as much as our own bodies, just like what Jesus did for the Church. A godly man exhibits this behavior in the course of dating.
You Are Flexible
A Christian boyfriend has willingness to be corrected when he is wrong. He also listens to advice and teachings from the Bible. Hence, you are expected to be righteous and gladly taking orders over your pride. Your relationship is a two-way street and it says a lot that you also follow your girlfriend’s wishes.
You Are Honest
You can always find songs or shows that portray men as the cheating one in a relationship. This is easy to know why – our actions do not match our words. It is as if we have an ulterior motive in every line we say, or something we do not tell to our girlfriend that gives them trust issues. A Christian boyfriend takes honesty in business and romance. He also keeps his promise and he is a man of integrity.
You Are A Provider
We have covered this many times in the blog and even non-Christians agree that men should be the one providing in a relationship. The Bible even states that a man is worse than a pagan if he fails to do so. While it does not mean raking tons of money, a good Christian boyfriend takes responsibility for the well-being of his girlfriend. Many marital problems arise from the failure of husbands to be a good provider, and it is understandable why wives find it hard to respect men like these.
You Protect Her
Men are good with hiding their emotions. We are also physically more adept than our partners. Hence, we need to protect them physically and emotionally. You are expected to look out for your girlfriend. This extends beyond marriage, as the two of you begin to build a home safe from any kinds of harm.
Of course, a good Christian boyfriend should avoid falling in these traps – materialism, infidelity and pride. How do you treat your mother? Probably that is the best indicator on how you will treat your girlfriend once she becomes your wife. You must also treat her family well since they will be your second parents when you get married. In addition to these characteristic traits of a godly man in a relationship, a good sense of humor will keep your journey more encouraging.