Are you new to dating? The thing is, you may already prepared the means to get along with the girl you are interested with. Probably some of you have already been into relationships and these did not work out in the end. Perhaps you have seen a bunch of articles about contemporary dating in the internet. You may be asking yourself some what-ifs and what went wrong despite following these pieces of advice. We are not in the position to say what you did was right or wrong but what we know is the Biblical way of dating. Now, it is time to reinforce some good Christian dating principles.
Date versus Dating
Perhaps we need to clear things first before we continue with this post. You may go out with a lot of girls for a coffee or for movies but that’s not called dating. Rather, these are a series of dates or mere meet ups. Christian dating is more intimate in a way you define your relationship and the two of you get emotionally open with each other. There is commitment and you are expected to be monogamous while you are dating her.
Principles of Christian Dating
- Men approach, women respond. As Christians, we should know that we are given roles in the process of dating. Men are tasked to approach the women first, as we are assumed to take the spiritual leadership in a relationship. It goes on to say that we are expected to ask her about going out and to ask for her parent’s approval. While we value feminism, the Biblical way of dating assumes you wait for a go signal before you declare your intentions. Women are expected to give men a clear answer when they were asked about dating. If she is unsure of her response, give her some time to collect her thoughts.
- Marriage as the Ultimate Goal. While you should keep in mind that you are looking for a lifetime partner, remember that you should not stick with that girl when irreconcilable difference arise. This principle only means that you are expected to date with a purpose. Casual dates are not advisable since most of these go nowhere in the end. Remember you are searching for a girl who holds similar values and reconcilable differences with you.
- The Value of Purity. This is not only limited with the concept of chastity Christianity is vocal about. Abstinence is one thing but how about your thoughts and retaining your Christian beliefs while dating? Among these concepts, this will be the hardest to follow since it also involves how pure your mind is when dealing with your girlfriend. Did you have some dirty thoughts with her when you are alone? Rest assured you are not alone in this regard, but keep persevering. Purity also deals with dating with someone who will not tarnish your Christian beliefs.
- Communication with fellow Christians. Your world will not get smaller once the two of you start dating. In fact, it is as if you will immerse yourself in a larger community. Her family will be your second family and you have to earn their approval if you really want her hand in marriage. Moreover, there are times when the two of you will be facing crossroads. Their advice will really help you in this case. They can see problems and rooms for improvement in your relationship objectively because they’re not directly involved.
That goes on to say that there are other great Christian dating principles aside from these four. Nonetheless, we need to value these core concepts highly as these serve as your fundamental building blocks in making relationships last for good.