It was the happiest day of your life. You walk down the aisle in your white trousseau, smiling your best smile, your mother is openly crying now and your father is keeping his manly facial expression. Your friends and the people closest to you bear witness to that oh so joyous occasion. Your groom is waiting for you at the end of the line. It was a sight to behold!
Fast forward to five years after, the memory of walking down the aisle is but a blurry one. Fights, dissimilar interests, incompatibilities, silent and uproarious misunderstandings ensue. Silent treatments were given. Open war was waged. You’ve had enough. Or maybe you are in somewhat different circumstance. You think your partner is not meeting your needs. Adultery is in the picture. Or maybe you have an unbelieving mate. Christian marriage on the rocks? When divorce seems like an option, what is God’s say on the matter?
Marriage is a Covenant and Covenants Are Not to be Broken.
“’And this is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and with groaning, because He no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant… Take heed then… and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth. For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel.” – Malachi 2:13-16
The Lord couldn’t have made it clearer than that. Do you know why God hates divorce? It is because marriage is a covenant and covenants are not to be broken. It is a very sacred oath. You have promised not only to your partner and your closest family and friends but most especially, it is your promise to God. An until-death-do-us-part kind of promise. That is why marriage is not something one enters superficially. It is a serious business.
God is a covenant-keeping God. You can check out the epic love affair between God and Israel. Despite betrayals, half-hearted affections, adultery and the absence of sincere love, God honored His covenant. Because of God’s covenant, Israel was not forsaken.
Yes, there are different circumstances you may be facing now. Severe, strenuous, distressing, agonizing circumstances. God does not make light of your situation. No matter how painful, help will always be available. He wants you to seek Him and find the answer to life’s dilemma in the light of His timeless truth.
Marriage is a Picture of Our Covenant Union With the Lord.
“But the lovingkindness of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him, and His righteousness to children’s children, to those who keep His covenant, and who remember His precepts to them.” – Psalms 103:17-18
Your earthly marriage is to be a picture of your heavenly marriage to God. Divorce distorts His eternal commitment to us. Our Lord will never leave us nor forsake us.
Marriage comes with a label, “Much assembly required!” It is a lifetime commitment of working it out with the person God lead your way. Most plunged in without carefully reading the instruction manual and confidently telling themselves they can figure it out as they go. Ultimately, they find themselves in a confused chaos. They quickly get into trouble and they find themselves reading and re-reading the manufacturer’s manual. Most of the time, problems encountered with marriages can be traced to the neglect of reading and obedience to God’s word.
Sin always hinders intimacy, your marriage life is not an exception. As soon as Adam and Eve realized their mistake, they just found out that they were naked. Besides hiding from God as their first instinct, the next thing they did is hide from each other. Marriage is an opportunity to grow in personal intimacy. It will never be perfect. Fights will always ensue. It will take constant work. A perpetual commitment that no matter the outcome of your relationship, no one will give up. Divorce will never be an option.
It Is Never Too Late.
Yes, we have heard a lot about Eve fashioned from Adam’s rib. How the first recorded words of a man in the book of Genesis was uttered when he saw his woman. It can be translated to Archimedes’ words when he found the answer to his bathtub dilemma, “Eureka!” Finally, I found what I am looking for!
But after the sweetness of a newly-budded relationship, a lot can happen in between. You may be in a situation where getting back together with your husband is not an option or maybe the divorce has already been signed, sealed and delivered.
There are many who never desired a divorce, who hate being divorced and who, as a result of being the unwilling and unhappy party, finds yourself divorced. They thereby feel like a second-class citizen in the family of God. Please don’t heap upon yourself a condemnation that is not from God. Although a lot of people may not understand, always bear in mind that all things are naked and open in the eyes of God. None are hidden. Someday those things that are hidden now will be revealed for what they are. And those who were unjustly declared guilty by man will be declared innocent and will be justified by God.
Christian marriage on the rocks? Look up and find the added strength you will only get from your Father. He knows what you are going through and He will make available the needed resources for you. May it be in the form of compassionate friends, well-meaning advice from your mother, or even from strangers. He will even change the heart of your partner. God is in the business of changing hearts. Nothing and no one is impossible for Him. Gaze upon His love, mercy and grace made available for you and your spouse. Christian marriage on the rocks? You can never go wrong putting your trust in God!