Relationships between a man and a woman take a toll. Misunderstandings, conflicts, financial woes, even incompatibilities between each other. How do you deal with rampant issues and continue to grow together with clear guidance from above? What Christian relationship advice we can bear in mind without compromising the core of who we are?
When you find the person you want to spend with, that someone you prayed for and with the clear intention of settling down with, most often than not, issues would occur. May it be personality differences, unshared information, family issues or deep-seated hurts, it needs a constant commitment to deal despite the struggles encountered.
The Strength of Being Vulnerable
“Submission is a command to everyone, men and women alike. Until we see submission as God’s instruction to become vulnerable enough to receive, we will fail to recognize that submission is an invitation to be blessed.” – Michelle McKinney Hammon
Let’s talk about submission. The relationship will never work out unless one of the two parties decides on giving up on his or her view and allowing the other to have his or her say. Some would say that “submission” is like “doormat”. Absolutely not.
Your cooperation is required in submission. You have to decide to go along with another person. Therefore, you are not rolling over; you have merely decided to walk in agreement.
The concept of submission causes a lot of trepidation especially if your partner is not submitted to God. Your views on the issue are on the opposite side of the planet. Establishing the fact that our God faithfully guards you no matter the circumstance is a vital one, even when one has geared down the wrong path.
We are commanded to submit. For married partners, women are commanded to submit to their husband. Men are commanded to love their wife. For unmarried ones, you are commanded to submit to the authorities put your way, may it be your pastor, father or employer. But why is it so difficult to submit?
Here is a very important wisdom. If you can submit to the authority in your life, even when everything in you is screaming that this direction is not the wisest choice, God will give those in authority the grace to see their own mistakes. They’ll love you more because you didn’t point them out and they’ll be more open to your counsel the next go-round. But if you point out their stupidity and insist your way, their only defense is to stick with their decision to secure their own position. They will never admit they’d made a mistake if it turned out to be a mess because you have already offended their sense of dignity. Worst case scenario? They now have no grace to see their faults, and you have become the fall guy in the whole fiasco.
No one should ever feel they have to defend their point of view to you. It’s a recipe for disaster. In order to have a mature and growing relationship, one should always feel that they can ask for your suggestion without judgment.
A good Christian relationship advice? Submit. Submit to each other. Remember, a heated argument may cause lasting and hurtful consequence. No conflict has ever been resolved from heated debates. Calmness and grace are the keys.