Whether we admit it or not, every single woman out there dream of having their perfect prince come rescue them from whatever living circumstance they have. Of course, Christian single woman are not exempted.
We dream of waiting for that perfect prince (a dashing guy in silver armour) to sweep us off our feet and carry us out of the misery we feel of being left out, the loneliness we feel of no one understanding us, that heartache of finding all of our friends getting their happy-ever-after and finding oneself still alone. And single.
Tragic, right? Or is it?
Kill The Fantasy
Okay, let’s get down to the nitty, gritty, cold hard facts of life. Let’s roll up our sleeves and start off getting things in the right direction.
It’s amazing how a lot of Christian single women put effort on defining their “perfect guy.” How he has to be taller than you or you won’t even consider him! His dress code should leave your mouth hanging. How about searching for guys who look like Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling. Of course, he has to have a lot of money, with a sports car to boot. Or need I still mention the six-pack criteria in your mind?
Alright girls, shake off that childish fantasies! What’s the use of having a pretty house when no one is at home? A handsome man is by no means a guarantee of that oh-so-elusive happy ever after.
The real question that all single women need to answer is what would you like your relationship to look like and then find someone who will help you make that happen. You might be pleasantly surprised they are those guy in the corner who you won’t give the time of day just because they don’t fill your “image” of a perfect guy.
That Filthy Rich Boyfriend Material
Okay, the next criteria on our list. We want someone who is a doctor, a lawyer, or a businessman. It’s okay if he is not that physically endowed but he needs to be financially well-off.
Let’s take a look at why most women dream of the handsome rich prince to sweep her off her feet and carry her away to a far away dreamland. You are all familiar with the “Pretty Woman” movie, right? Haven’t we wished to be like Julia Roberts being dazzled by Richard Gere in spite of our state of filthiness? But again, this is where we need to pull ourselves together. Reality collides with fiction. If we continue to wait to be rescued, well, the end will be just that. We continue to wait. And wait. And wait. I know you get the drill.
To all the Christian single women out there who are still waiting to be rescued, let us shift our paradigm. Intentionally decide to be the “good thing” that a man finds instead of being that girl who continues to wait to be rescued. The more you resolve your issues before entering a relationship, the freer you will be to enjoy it.
In our search for our destined love, let us be that woman who can sing “On Christ the solid Rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand” and really mean it. When all else fails you, we have a constant Provider. One amazing Affirmer. One who knows us inside out but loves us so deep no one can fathom.
In the meantime, in your personal fairy tale, maybe the prince simply can’t find the right length of rope to climb your tower you long to be rescued from or maybe the knight lost his horse and is limping his way to you anyway. Let us take our blinders off and see the people around us as they really are. Not perfect, but the contents inside are incredible. We just need to learn to peel off their outer coverings.