No boyfriend since birth? Still single in your thirties? Body clock ticking? Where is my Mr Right? Would it be so wrong to settle with Mr He’ll Do?
Single ladies are hounded by society’s pressures. Admittedly, we are bound by our friends’ perceptions, even our families’ expectations. In the world where you are breaking the mould, how does a single Christian woman deal with her dating and relationship issues the right way? How do we avoid foolish choices single women make?
Guard Your Heart
We’ve watched it in movies. Read about it in books. Seen it in the life of our favourite celebrities. We’ve seen how ecstatic it is finding that one person that completes us, someone who speaks to our soul no one else understands. You get the drill, right? So, where is our “the one?” Did we already “missed the love bus?”
In order to get what our heart wants, single women tend to get busy. We take matters into our own hands. Compromises were made. Far too many women walk with open hands when it comes to matters of the heart. Stupid, foolish decisions that leave us frustrated, even depressed with our poor choices.
I believe there is a reason why God instructed us to really guard our hearts. It is the wellspring of who we are. When we are deceived by our heart, everything else follows. Our actions and decisions will become compromised.
Remember, everyone has a unique story. To everything, there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1). Don’t rush.
Get Heart Smart
When God asks us to love Him, He instructs us to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mark 12:30). Yes, our mind is involved because our emotions should follow our decisions, not the other way around. When our mind has committed to loving Him, our emotions are engaged and that decision is maintained through the strength of our convictions.
This also applies to that thing called love department, or commonly known as our love life. It is vital to engage our intellect in this area because our hearts can deceive and mislead us. Based on what our heart wants, words and circumstances are twisted to conform according to our desires. Many women fool themselves into guessing a man’s intentions which resulted to disappointments after finding out that they’re assumptions are not correct.
Thus, heartaches follow. Remember, when we are heartbroken, it is hard to walk in a godly manner. So, take good care of your heart. Although our heart is pliable, it can affect every area of your well-being if subjected to too many unnecessary traumas. Get your heart smart!
Never Compromise Yourself
Let’s talk about regrets. I believe the deepest regret a woman can feel, is investing your all, your everything, into someone who does not recognize your worth or treats you the way you should be treated. Let’s confer about compromising your purity. Giving your body to someone who is not your husband is an enormous mistake. Do not be tempted to follow the crowd. A man is not your husband until he is your husband.
Sexual intimacy causes deeper pain when the relationship is over. It is more than skin-deep; it is spirit-deep. It will leave an impression in our spirit that will never be erased. God has set the standard of purity in place, not just to protect your heart but to reserve yourself for the one who deserves all of your love.
Patience Is A Virtue
So, how do we avoid foolish choices single women make? Patience is the answer. Your day will come. Patience helps you to own yourself and not make hasty decisions you may regret later. Consistently, the shame is greater than the pain of a love gone wrong when we realize we did not conduct ourselves with wisdom.
Hold your breath and exhale slowly. Never make a decision out of fear, anger, or passion. Wait on the Lord. He will always make the way clear. Your day will come. Not a day late or a moment out of time. Never fret.