Probably you swore to yourself that you will be a good husband if ever you start building a home. After all, a husband is expected to lead the family financially and spiritually. Are you still unsure of what path to take? Here’s our take on godly husband characteristics.
Husbands According to Popular Media
If you take a look how media portray husbands, they fall into three types. First is the passive one whose priority is to make his wife happy to the point of disregarding his own feelings. He is someone who is willing to stand under the rain just to seek forgiveness from his wife, even when he is actually right. This is sort of romantic until you realize that any of his pent-up feelings will explode when the two of you fight.
The second type of husband according to popular media is the archetypal neglecting guy. You can further divide his type into two. The first one is the workaholic variant who has no time for his wife. Work and career advancement is his priority, under the guise of earning money for his family. Little did he know, his wife now feels taken for granted over his career. For the other one? You can see him forsaking his husband duties to meet with his friends or to do his favorite hobby.
The last one is the casanova. He is someone who thinks marriage is just a contract. Playing a real life James Bond is cool, isn’t it? Moreover, he will latch into other women because he is not satisfied with his wife. He plays an awful version of hide and seek, hoping he can evade being caught.
The Biblical Husband
You will likely have a sad marriage if you fall with any of these three types. Molding yourself just to fit in these tropes is not what a Christian husband should be. Hence, we give you the core traits of a godly husband.
- Takes the Lead – This does not mean you will always have the final say on every household issues. It only says you should take your wife on the same church upon marriage. Lead her to the same God you are serving (Ephesians 5:23). A married Christian couple knows each of their roles. A husband primarily provides the means, stands for the decision of the household and respects the opinion of his wife.
- Passionate – Even the Bible is vocal about expressing your passion to your wife in a godly way (Ephesians 5:25). Love your wife like how God loves us in the first place. Do not forget to do this with your wife even in times the two of you fight (Ephesians 5:2). Make her feel that only her makes your heart flutter.
- Honest – Dishonesty brings chaos at home. Honesty earns the trust of your wife and forgiveness when you did something wrong. This is also the core trait that will preserve your marriage in the long run. Remember, an honest husband hates lying and lying will only bring you to shame (Proverbs 13:5).
- Loyal – Temptations will be around but you should desire only your wife. Turn a blind eye over ungodly sights and reject any advances that will lead you to infidelity. There is a certain magic with marriage that you will have the most intimate moment with each other without feeling ashamed (Song of Solomon 7:10). Capitalize it to your heart’s content because your wife is worth more than a hundred paramours.
- Family Oriented – A godly husband knows how to practice religion over his family (1 Timothy 5:4). Disagreements arise, but he still calmly states his disagreements without causing uproar at home. He also knows how to handle your parents, as they will also be his parents in Christ when you marry each other.
To be honest, we can actually put a dozen more godly husband characteristics. These are your fundamental blocks in building a successful marriage and in fulfilling your goal as the good husband. Scratch those what you see in the television or the internet, the Bible clearly states your role.