Every single parent knows about the challenges of raising a child alone. But I believe, as all single mother agrees, that as much as there are good days, an equal amount (or more) of bad days follow. It is tough as a single parent and tougher still when you are a single Christian mom. Raising your kid well and in like manner being able to provide for all of his or her needs and wants is definitely a tough sell. Additionally, you also need to face the different perception of people around you about your unique situation.
Everything happens for a reason. All traumatic circumstances, past mistakes, even the consequences of our mishaps, parts and parcel of incidences allowed by our Maker. He is in control even in moments where we felt that the world is conniving against us. No matter what fate brought your door, your son or daughter is a blessing and an opportunity to test your capacity as a person and as a mother.
So what are the quirks and perks of how to live as a single Christian mom? What are the clear guidance available for you in order to give the best possible life for your kid?
The Perks Of Being A Single Mother
Being a mother is a noble job. But being a single mother is a fate fit for the saints. It is tough. It is arduous. It is daunting and troublesome and downright perplexing. But when all are said and done, as a single Christian mother, there are perks available for you. Here are some of the benefits of being a single mom that you give yourself a pat on the back and a smile on the face for:
- Absolute Decision-making. The entire authority rests in your hands. It may seem a tad intimidating but you will soon realize the optimistic side when it comes to taking all the decisions for your child. From the school, your kid will attend to, the places you visit together, the household rule you give, and other restrictions and freedom you give your child will ultimately be decided by you.
- Chief Financial Officer. As a single parent, you have the choice to decide how you spend your money. Finances may be an arduous task as the burden of providing for your family rests in you alone, but you are in a better position to understand where to spend your hard-earned pennies.
- Responsibility and Independence. Children who are raised by single parents tend to be more responsible and independent than those raised by both parents. This is because they are taught at a young age how to make their own decisions, how to be competent in the home and at school and how to be reliable on their own.
As a single parent, you are your own boss. When you know that there is no one else who will take care of all the responsibilities at home, you make sure that you find a way of doing it yourself the way you see fit. Learning to know to manage your time will now be an acquired gift.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Never rely on what you think you know. Remember the Lord in everything you do, and he will show you the right way.” Proverbs 3:5-6
The Quirks Of Being A Single Parent
Life being difficult for you as a single parent is but a given. But when it comes to parenting, nothing really comes easy. In the outset, you may be burdened by all the tough decisions you need to make alone. Where losing yourself when faced with insurmountable tasks is oh so tempting, here are words of encouragements from the book of timeless truth, proven and tested through time.
- When you feel overwhelmed.
“But those who trust in the Lord for help will find their strength renewed. They will rise on wings like eagles; they will run and not get weary; they will walk and not grow weak.” Isaiah 40:31
An overload of all the task and responsibilities you need to face can wear you down. When you feel overpowered by the problems encountered, always remember that assistance is but within your reach.
- When worries about your finances bring you down.
“And with all his abundant wealth through Christ Jesus, my God will supply all your needs.” Philippians 4:19
Taking care of your money situation alone can put a lot of stress on you. Juggling multiple jobs to make all ends meet is but a common reality. Always bear in mind that your heavenly Father will meet all your provisionary needs. He will never let you down.
- When you feel oh so lonely.
“The mountain and hills may crumble, but my love for you will never end; I will keep forever my promise of peace. So says the Lord who loves you.” Isaiah 54:10
The broken feeling you had from your past relationship may put you ill at ease. Whether or not you have an amicable relationship with your ex, at the end of the day, you will still be alone. When dejected thoughts come your way, never forget that not in the least are you alone. Talk to your friends. Spend time with your parents. Seek encouragement from people you trust. It will surely give you the boost you need whenever loneliness strikes.
Always Bear In Mind.
Juggling through so many emotions throughout your single parenting life may at times be like a roller coaster ride. It can almost feel like such an insurmountable job. Nonetheless, you can better prepare for the high road you need to take by remembering these simple tips.
Life will always be a challenge. How you face the problems that come your way and how you stand no matter how many times you fall will be the ultimate test of your character and best portrays who you really are. Courage is the ability to do the frightening task encountered. Being a single Christian mom definitely takes being a courageous mom. Hats off to you!
“Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28.