You have been together for years and things are generally going well. The two of you knew each other long enough to trust one another. Yet I am sure sometimes you are stuck in situations where your faith is tested. The two of you will tie the knot in the future, but you cannot just go to the Church without prior preparations. Building a godly marriage is important and it takes some time before the two of you can say you will become one in Christ.
God’s Idea of Marriage
It goes on to say that a man is designated to be the spiritual leader in home. As a future husband, you will make household decisions and carry the responsibility of providing the means for your family. Of course, your wife will handle equally important roles to make your marriage work.
Love Yourself – Probably Your Wife Loves You More Than You Do
Perhaps you should stop comparing yourself with those celebrities with chiseled features then sulk later. Your future wife does not primarily looked for those traits when she chose you. Stop thinking you will not be good enough for her, because she is probably happy that you are doing your job as her boyfriend. Get rid of the negativity. An angsty guy is already barely tolerable, do not dial up the drama anymore.
However, do not make her feel as an option to your career or hobbies. Treat her as if she is your most precious belonging in the world. Seriously, stop dating her if she feels miserable in your relationship. She deserves someone better.
Stop Thinking About ME, Think About US
Marriage is a process where two persons become one beyond physical intimacy. This is not the same when you are still dating when you mostly think of yourself and how you will get by the day. Start mentally preparing yourself to consider her, or better, the kid’s needs once you have one. Think of her and the household.
If you are still struggling to put yourself in other’s shoes, get active in volunteerism or start doing small favors for her. Say sorry if you did something wrong. Pride will not do any good in your relationship. The world includes more than just your points and that’s the starting point of the change in your perspective.
Commit to Her
Well, divorce is not included in the package of marriage. You are supposed to fix differences and not throw the values that made you fell for her. Stop creating decisions out of feelings. Marriage is more than just a state of mind. Well, this also includes that you should not cheat as long as you are married. God designed marriage for two – you cannot afford a third party in this sacred relationship.
Honeymoon Can Wait
This is the classic Christian value that was once eminent in the community. Well, abstaining from sex was celebrated back then. I wonder why it was ridiculed now, especially for the guys. Culture changes through time and probably the popular media helped to create the notion that sexual activities before marriage are totally okay.
Okay, we are not here to condemn you if you did not save yourself for marriage. Purity also pertains to the consistency of holding out the Christian values. You can still retain it by the time you reject what the society tells you and believe only what’s the Bible is telling thousands of years ago as far as purity is concerned.
Manage Your Money
Seriously, I have heard news of people having extravagant weddings only to drown in debt later. Money is also the main reason why couples argue and probably this is what we badly want in any time. Learn how to manage your money while you are still single. Set budgets for your weekly expenditures. Save money and invest some.
Money is not actually the root of evil if you just know how to manage it. If you spend too much even if you do not earn enough, that’s where your marriage will be rocky.
Building a godly marriage is old-fashioned by today’s standards but you must resist what the society says. Stand against the current and follow what God prescribes for the both of you.