Being single nowadays is a tough choice. Living a contented single life can be a tad difficult. The lifestyle set as an example in the social media or the ones we see presented in the movies or television may not be the best example for us. We are bombarded with a different lifestyle where your life as a single is being questioned, resulting in confidence and anxiety issues.
How can we enjoy a contented single life? How to be joyful in this phase of your life, living a life with no regrets?
“You don’t need to settle. Ever. In love or in life.”
The only false-proof way to enjoy a contented life, whether in our single phase or married life, is to never settle. Although we read from books a vast array of insights on how to be happy, how to find love, how to be our best selves and how to live our best lives, the only genuine way to live your best life is to refuse to settle for anything less than your best life.
Nowadays, we find a lot of ways to cut corners. Instead of baking our food, we microwave it. Using plastic surgery to lose weight, instead of diet and exercise. Ninety-three-day marriages instead of “till death do us parts.” Drive-through restaurants, drive-through markets, even drive-through wedding chapels! Everything is done as swiftly as possible in the guise of doing things efficiently. Sometimes we forget that a quality life wasn’t built in a day. If you want your life to be a five-star reality, you need to stop settling for a fast-food mentality!
Refuse to lower your standards, your aspirations and your expectations for any reason. We are not created by God to barely squeak by and settle for a lukewarm, watered-down version of you or to live in fear of what other people will think.
Rise above settling in life or in love. Next time someone tells you your standards are too high, don’t apologize. Instead, say “Thank you.” Those who know their worth hold out for the best things life has to offer.
“If you want to attract happy, positive things, become a happy, positive person. Work from the inside out!
I have known quite a few who go through life with their heads down, feeling bad about themselves and their circumstances in life, wondering why things never seem to look up for them. There really is no scientific answer for this. No big mystery to solve. Here is the answer to your downward introspections: your life can’t look up until you do!
If you have something that you don’t like seeing in your life right now, change who you’re being. Refuse to wallow in the blame game. Accept that you cannot control other people’s behaviors and the only thing that you can control is your behavior and reactions to what life has offered you.
Sitting around passively complaining about life, waiting for life to happen will only make matters worse. Focusing on those things that you don’t want, you invite those very things in yours.
The first big decision that you need to do, to have a positive change in you, is to flip the script of negative downward spiralling thoughts you are going through. Realize you are worthy. You are complete. You are created just as you are for a purpose only you can fulfil.
Take active steps to boost your morale and self-esteem and your life will follow. If you want to live in abundance, stop focusing on the things that you lack. Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes. The only thing standing between you and happiness is your thought life – not a better job, a new car, longer hair or a perfect boyfriend. Nothing can make you happy until you make yourself happy. And nothing will ever be enough for you until you realize that you are enough.
“As [a man] thinks in his heart, so is he.”
– Proverbs 23:7
“Playing it safe is the riskiest thing for you to do.”
It’s so easy to be stuck in a rut. Sometimes we put ourselves in the position where we are stranded between what we think we should be doing instead of going after what we dream of doing. We play it safe, telling ourselves this is the only feasible way to stay in the game. We put our own dreams on hold to cater to the needs of other people. We stay in the “comfortable” and forgo the chance of taking the leap to know our potential. We avoid the unknown and stay rooted in our comfort zone.
All the while, we let precious time be wasted when we could have spent it pursuing our passions, chasing our goals and living the lives we dream of. We hide in setting “realistic” goals that we never live up to our best potential. Instead, we resign ourselves to living an easy, simple, ordinary, mundane lives and coloring inside the lines.
In life, you sometimes have to risk everything you’ve got to get everything you ever wanted. Life is not how long you live but it’s about what you do with the time you have. It’s learning to live outside the box. It’s deciding that “good enough” is not good enough and you will give the best that you have to the world.
Take a moment to ask yourself, “Am I giving everything I can to the pursuit of my dreams?” The price you pay for allowing life to pass you by is just too high. Refuse to play it safe!
To live a life content with being single, refuse to settle in your love and life decisions. Work from the inside out. Change the way you think in order to change the way you act. Dare to take risk. Refuse to settle living in the status quo. To expect new and great things to happen, you need to be willing to do new and great things. In order to reach your greatest potential, you need to be willing to do things you have never done before. Refuse to box yourself in. Soar high!
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.”
– 2 Timothy 1:7