Life as a single woman is paved with good intentions. Learning to effectively discern what to do next or who to ask for good directions may sometimes be a trial and error. In this world, you’re going up against enough faux friends and fair-weather friends. It is even more difficult for a single Christian woman. How does one find the right way without compromising one’s faith? How does a Christian woman find her road to happy-ever-after?
Liking Yourself Is Just Important As Loving Yourself
You have to set the standard. Not a high expectation where no one, in particular, will ever pass but a standard that will set your road to a joyful and merry you. You cannot ask someone to like you or love you more than you like or love yourself.
We can love someone without liking them – a cranky family member, a grumpy coworker who has sat with you forever and knows no other way to talk than with his mouth full, a longtime pal whom you outgrew long ago but habit keeps you in each others lives. More often than not, we love out of obligation but like… like is a choice. And this is very important especially with liking ourselves.
The importance of liking oneself is vital. If you’re constantly down, questioning your worth and doubtful about the significance you bring in the world, others will probably develop the same opinions about you that you have for yourself.
Find yourself first, like yourself first, love yourself first. Friendship, companionship and love will naturally find you. Don’t just love yourself out of obligation because it seems like the right thing to do. Like yourself out of recognition that there is not, has not been and will never be another you.
Your Self-Worth Is Not For Sale, Value Yourself!
Don’t let anyone talk you out of it. Stand strong in your worth. When you start to doubt your worth or when other people give you their idea of your own value, remember that God created you like no one else. Very deliberately, He made you, unlike all others, the quirky you that can just be happy in the corner curled up with your favorite fiction characters, the vibrant you that can smile even with the little and simple things in life.
Here is a food for your thoughts: If you surrender your self-worth to someone who doesn’t see your true value, what happens when someone comes along who wants to give you what you’re worth instead of what you’ll settle for? Know your value. A lot of times, people will try to talk you out of it. If they can’t see your value, let them and keep on moving. Someone out there is looking for exactly what you’ve got and will never try to undercut your value or question your worth.
Celebrate you. No one else will. Here’s to you. Cheers to that single Christian woman finding her way to a happy you!